coping with kids

As adults, even we find moving an emotional time; leaving one place and relocating to a new and sometimes very different environment can be difficult.  How much more emotional must it be for your children?  You will have many valuable possessions to move, but none as precious as your children.  We need to give them the attention they deserve and need.

Regardless of the reason for moving, attention to children’s feelings is very important.  Talking to them about the move is essential. Explain to your children at their own level of understanding why you are moving, what the new home will be like, and how they can contribute to the success of the family’s relocation.

For children who have not moved before, this experience may be their first with giving up the known for the unknown.  While they may seem to accept the move well, understand that their need for reassurance and security is high.

Here are a few ideas for making the transition as smooth as possible for your children:

• Include the children in making plans for the move.
• If you are moving to a distant place, help your children learn about the new area.  Tourist bureaus and the State agencies are possible sources of information.
• Let the children help decide how their new rooms are to be arranged and decorated.

Encourage the children to exchange addresses with their friends. If practical, give thought to allowing them to have their old friends visit them at the new home.  A telephone call to an old friend is a low-cost way to relieve post-move blues.